Money Vs. Happiness

I spent a lot of today thinking about Money vs. Happiness. It stemmed from a phone conversation I had with a guy who will be starting Law School in the fall. When I asked him if he was excited, and what kind of law he'd be studying, he said "Who cares? I'm in it for the money." I think it goes without saying that the ideal situation is to work in a profession that offers both happiness and financial reward. What about those of us who aren't fortunate enough to be in that situation, though? I am lucky enough now to be on the path of achieving a nice balance between the two. However, for a long time I wasn't. I always vowed to myself that happiness would trump all else, and I'd never be the type of person who takes a job just to get a paycheck. As we all do though, I grew up and got a reality check. I've come to find that without financial independence, it is hard to be truly happy (clearly, this doesn't apply to all of your heiresses out there. You know, because Paris Hilton is sitting home reading my blog...) I grew up in an upper-middle class town on Long Island, and never needed for anything. I grew accustomed to a certain lifestyle. My whole life, my parents reminded me that my expensive tastes and likes would someday have to be supported by me. That led me to start working at 13. Was it the financial independence that drove me? The idea of freedom? Or, was I scared to live my life based solely on happiness? Let's face it, if I was basing my career choices on happiness, there would be a lot more sleeping and a lot less working. The age old question still remains, though. Does money actually equate in happiness? Or, can our happiness be enough to get us through life?

To be honest, I'm torn. On some level, I'd like to think that I'm down-to-earth enough to not need excessive amounts of money. Money, on that level of my thinking, should be a want. There's the other part of me though, that equates money with freedom. In the real estate world, most of us base our successes on numbers - How many houses did we sell? How much did we gross for our companies? How much did we pocket?- -It's hard not to. While it may be an emotionally satisfying profession on many levels, the ultimate goal is a hug goodbye and a check. In real estate, it's pretty straight forward that if you're not doing any deals, you're not successful. Then again, who knows? Maybe you're just happy to have your real estate license? What is success, though? I'm not going to get all philosophical on you, but isn't it fair to say that if you're happy with your success, you're "successful?" The first time I met my first manager in my first office, he asked me "How many deals do you need to complete this year to make you feel like a success?" I gave him my answer (4...it's my favorite number, and I was 20 years old), and he then explained that he'd be happy with any number, as long as I achieved it. Success is ultimately measured in achieving the goals you set for yourself. On that level, I find happiness to be more important than money. That being said, had I not achieved my goal and not reaped the financial rewards of it, I would feel quite the opposite.

While writing this, I think I've answered my own question. If you're unhappy with a job, chances are, you're not being a very effective worker. We do the best at the things we enjoy. If you're being ineffective, you're not making money. Therefore, happiness is not only more important than money, but is directly correlated. Though I do think money is important, I am a strong proponent of weighing your options. There is no such thing as being "stuck." I've had friends/co-workers/family describe their lives with this term before, and I just don't believe it. We, as human beings, have the power to constantly reinvent ourselves. "Stuck," is not an option.

The moral: Measure your success in your level of satisfaction. Be it financially or emotionally driven, your personal satisfaction is what will ultimately make or break you.